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Positive Affirmations

 

Well, hello there, it is me, positivity word slanging, love sprinkling Amazing Alex!  Today is the day.  Perhaps you are wondering what I mean; today is the day we are ridding ourselves of our limitations and barriers.  Close your eyes and take a deep breath in … You already have the tools within you.  With a little guidance, we can use these tools to help you come closer to becoming and/or feeling amazing.  There are two words I want you to think about, positive affirmations.  These are positive statements that can assist you to combat and over come self-sabotaging negative thoughts.

I am enough…say it out loud, but when you say it, I want you to believe it.  To believe is to acknowledge that something is true or that it exists. To me, belief is a feeling of contentment, satisfaction, happiness and a hopeful feeling when you think ahead to the future.  What did you feel when you said those words out loud?  Did you feel a joyful feeling in your heart when you said that I am enough?  Through consistency, commitment, and consciousness, we can work on retraining our thinking, and speaking into positive patterns to help change our lives.  Today is the day to open that door.  Its another opportunity to begin this change.    Think about your self-talk, is your internal dialogue serving you in a positive way?    Whether you know it or not, you are using affirmations in every moment.  With your thoughts, words, and behavior, you are creating your own life experiences.

I know what you are thinking, affirmations almost sound unrealistic or some form of “wishful thinking.”  Think of it this way, exercise is a way to improve our physical health.  Think of affirmations as exercises for our mind.  By making positive repetitive affirmations we can begin to think and act differently.

There is evidence that if you spend a few minutes thinking about positive affirmations of yourself, you can decrease your stress, increase your confidence and calm your nerves.  Isn’t that amazing!  Other studies have shown that it helps people with low self-esteem and depression. Researchers suggest that when a person has a stronger sense of self-worth, it can improve that person’s overall well-being.

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How do you use Positive Affirmations?

There are many ways you can use affirmations, for example, you can use affirmation to:

  • Boost your self-esteem
  • Finish goals you’ve started working on
  • Boost your confidence
  • Control negative feelings such as impatience, frustration, and anger.
  • Overcome a bad habit
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How do you Write an Affirmation Statement? 

What areas of your life would you like to change?  Think of a specific area in your life, whether it is a behavior or belief that you have difficulty with.  Focus on the things that matter to you most and write down the areas you would like to work on.

 

Is your affirmation achievable and credible? Have you ever heard of SMART goals?  SMART goals stand for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-based.  I mention this because these types of goals are clear, specific, realistic and should be important to you.  This is how your affirmations should be.  I repeat, keep it realistic!  Affirmations are not magic spells.  You must believe in them and that feeling of belief is an internal source within you.

 

What about the negative self-talk? Turn negatives into positives.  I want you to try this, write down those negative thoughts or beliefs that keep bothering you on a piece of paper.  Once you’ve listed them all, throw it away!  Throw those negative thoughts written down in the trash because that is where they belong.  Start a new list of affirmations that are opposite of the negative list.

 

How should I write my affirmations?  We do not want to write our affirmations in the past tense.  Speak and/or write your affirmations as if it is already happening.  This will feed your internal source of belief and add truth to the statement for the now.

 

Why should I say my affirmation statements out loud?  Say it loud! Say it loud!  It can help carry those affirmations with emotional weight.  Make the phrase meaningful to you and find time throughout the day to say it to yourself.

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What are Some Examples of Affirmations? 

Affirmations should be personal to you, specific and achievable.  Here are some amazing examples listed below:

  • I can do this!
  • I am successful!
  • I am generous!
  • I am amazing!

 

Amazing Key Points

  • Affirmations are positive statements
  • Affirmations can help you combat self-sabotaging negative thoughts
  • Make your affirmations realistic and achievable
  • Write your affirmations down
  • Say your affirmations out loud

 

References :

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/affirmations.htm

https://www.louisehay.com/the-power-of-affirmations/

 

Do you have any positive affirmations that you would like to share? Please comment and share below.

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4 Amazing Tips to Help You Stay Consistent With Your Goals

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Well hello there, it is I, the positivity spreading, you shall over come reminder, Amazing Alex!  Consistency, consistency, consistency, consistency…what exactly does it mean and why is it important when it comes to your goals?  Take some time to think about the goals you have set for yourself this year.  Did you get past writing your goals down or are you in the action phase?  Do you feel stuck?  Consistency is taking one goal, zooming in on it, and investing time each day towards that specific goal until you’ve achieved it.  Here are four amazing tips to help you stay consistent.

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  1. Continue to write your goals down and focus.

In order to maintain consistency, it is extremely important that you know exactly what you want.  Write it down and zoom in on one “get it done” task at a time.

 

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  1. If you want consistency, think consistent.

Consistent behavior is reinforced by consistent thinking.  This tip is easier to say than it is to do; it takes practice.  Each day you stay consistent helps you practice consistency.

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  1. Don’t get defeated by self-doubt.

Self-doubt destroys consistency.  Imagine self-doubt as a Negative Nancy, this person shoots down every idea that you have.  A Negative Nancy has no faith in you or your work and is constantly holding you back.  Please escort Negative Nancy (self-doubt) out of your house and out of your mind. Feelings of self-doubt is often caused by negative automatic thoughts.  These type of thoughts are random and come from our subconscious in response to everyday events.

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  1. Don’t feel like doing it? Do it anyway.

Building consistency is being aware of how the task makes you feel; however, you must be able to believe that you can push through the momentary discomfort.  Imagine how you would feel once you completed the task.   Better yet, imagine how far you’ve come before you decide to quit working towards a goal that you’ve already started on.

Utilizing these four amazing tips can help you organize your short term and long-term goals.  Try these tips out as you continue with your amazing journey and let me know how it goes.

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Being Amazing!

 

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Well hello there! Its me! The positivity throwing, hope growing Amazing Alex and yes, I am extremely extra for typing all of that.  I know my early post have been centered around consistency, commitment, and consciousness; these are the three C’s that I believe will help reinforce the change that you are seeking.  To understand why I choose these three C’s is to understand why I call myself Amazing Alex.

Take a moment and say the word amazing out loud to yourself.  How did it make you feel? Well, when I say the word amazing out loud to myself, I feel extremely confident.  How I imagine Spider-Man felt the first time that he swung from his spider web successfully from building to building. The confidence you feel as a woman when you decide to try a new hairstyle for the first time and you really rock it.  The Spider-Man metaphor reminds me of the many attempts that it took for me to become confident and the hair metaphor reflects my inner energy level of confidence that projects out to the world.  Say the word out loud again……Amazing.

When I think of the word amazing, I don’t think of a negative experience.  I think of an amazing time, amazing place, amazing feelings, amazing experiences and amazing as being filled with wonder.  Throw Alex behind it and BOOM! You get this explosive personality that enjoys motivating other people and providing people with the tools they need to strive towards being and feeling amazing.  Amazingness is fluent and the best part of it all is that you define what amazing means to you.  Whether it is an experience, accomplishment, and/or feeling, throw Amazing in front of it and let me know how it makes you feel.

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Being In Total Control of Herself

 

 

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Well hello there! It’s the coffee drinking, road rage having, mindfulness exploring Amazing Alex.  This post has been sitting heavy on my chest and it involves the word BITCH…. have I caught your attention? All caps may be used to emphasize, scream, or represent an acronym of a word. For this post it is an acronym: Being In Total Control of Herself.  I first heard this acronym watching Iyanla Fix My Life.   She used it to help the woman find her voice so that she may speak her truth.  Iyanla defines this word as a defense against others to back them up and let people know that they have crossed your boundary and violated you.     Protect your boundaries!  If you do not protect your boundaries it will disrupt your commitment, consistency, and consciousness.

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Sparkle

Well hey there! Its me!  The 7:00pm coffee drinking, Game of Thrones loving, positivity vibe throwing Amazing Alex.  I want to follow up with you about my previous blog.  You know the one titled New Year new me!  Its a summarization of the important three C’s: consistency, commitment and consciousness.   How do you get past planning the three C’s and taking action towards them?   Well you evolve.  Evolving reminds me of a butterfly.  When I was in the second grade, my entire class got a chance to take care of butterflies and watch them evolve.

My butterfly name was Sparkle………yes Sparkle, in my mind she was a girl.  When my teacher handed me my jar, I only saw an egg on a leaf; I still remember the confused look on my face.  When my teacher told me that she was giving us butterflies, at the time, I didn’t know we were going to start at the very beginning.  Every day I would race to my classroom to see if Sparkle was flying around in the jar, and everyday I was disappointed when I saw that she was still an egg.  A few weeks later, Sparkle was a caterpillar.

I was growing impatient, I wanted Sparkle to have her wings already but all she did was crawl around in the jar, eat all the leaves, and shed her skin.  I’m not going to pretend like my teacher didn’t tell me how the evolution of a butterfly worked, she did, and I also read about it in our science book.  For me, I just wanted to see instant results, a butterfly.  Well, Sparkle stayed in her cocoon for another two weeks before she decided to be a butterfly.

My teacher told us once they became butterflies that we had to set them free.  The sun was bright, and we were the only class outside to release our butterflies.  I opened my jar, but Sparkle didn’t fly off right away.  She landed on my hand and opened her wings than flew away.

 

 

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Evolution is mysterious; Sparkle evolved from a caterpillar to a butterfly because that is what they do genetically.  People can evolve as well, through patience, consistency, commitment and the consciousness to want to change.  Thoughts are merely goals that turn into action through our behavior.  If you want to evolve just do it.  When you are ready and willing to strive to be better you will do better getting you closer to your most amazing self.

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NEW YEAR! NEW ME!

 

 

Let me guess, New Year new me huh.  It’s that time of year when most people open to the world about their goals for the New Year.  Venting as they type up their post, write in their journal, fill up their agenda or make a vision board for what they would like to happen throughout the New Year.

I don’t know about you but 2018 reminds me of the backdrop that wasn’t a good idea to have in your picture.  It reminds me of living in New York standing in the middle of the street trying to get a taxi, but the drivers continue to pass by.  Sorry for being dramatic, I have never lived in New York, but I feel like that has happened to someone before.  My point is, I survived 2018 but there are several and I mean several things that I have learned from 2018 that has given me an idea of how I want 2019 to go.

  • Consistency
  • Commitment
  • Consciousness

For 2019 I will be working on my three C’s.    Consistency, commitment, and consciousness.  The first two C’s intertwine, however, there is a hung difference between the them.  Let’s just say that consistency is the daily routine you create for yourself.  Will you wake up early everyday to have more time? Would you stay active for a certain amount of days throughout the week to lose that extra weight?  Will you start reading every day to broaden your horizon?  commitment is the length of time that you intend to stick to this routine you create for yourself.   The time frame of the commitment is up to you.  Is this a lifetime goal or a 6-month trial?

The   good thing is that you have the power to decide and the consciousness to understand what you do not have the power to control.  There may be a time when the situation is completely out of your control, however, the one thing you can control is your response to that situation.  It was so easy to type that previous sentence!  Sometimes it is hard to work on responding in a situation that is out of your control.  It is something that should be practiced consistently.    There is a rainbow of emotions that each of us experience, we all tend to express these emotions differently.  What goals will you be working on in 2019?