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3 Amazing Tips to Combat Self-Doubt



Well hello there, it’s me, Amazing Alex!  Life can be overwhelming at times and doubt can creep into your mind.  Doubt is a combined feeling of uncertainty, hesitation,  and confusion.  When that happens, take a deep breath and pause.  I have a question for you, is your self-doubt coming from your own negative self -talk or from negative people around you?  Has anyone ever told you:

“That’s too difficult; there’s no way you can do that.” 

“What happens if you fail? You know failure is hard for you to take in; you will never forgive yourself.”

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Have you ever wondered, where are they getting these negative comments from? Often, these negative individuals may feel that they are protecting you from getting hurt.   Let them know you got this, and you will be fine.  Sometimes people project their own feelings of self-doubt about themselves onto you.  Guess what you can tell them:


   “ I have a different perspective; sorry you feel that way, but this is my own journey.”


People may even be jealous that you are trying something new while they are stuck in their routine  and are afraid of stepping out of their own comfort zone.  I can go on and on about the many ways people are negative and discouraging.  You are the CEO of your life and you have the power to demote, promote or fire the people you have around you.  Take some time out and monitor who you have  around you.  Pay close attention to the people that motivate you or hinder you; then create healthy boundaries that serves your mental health.    What happens if the negative self-talk is coming from you?  Here are three amazing tips to challenge self-doubt:


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“Challenge the negative thoughts. “

This step really takes practice, for example, you can tell yourself:

“This isn’t going to be an easy road but following my dreams are important to me.               I’m  willing to invest the time and work into making it happen.” 

“Create long-term goals and break them down into short-term goals.”

It’s easy to doubt yourself when the task resembles a giant picture of the finishing project; break the project down into puzzle pieces.  This step will help you organize your goals instead of getting overwhelmed with the steps that it will take to accomplish your dreams.


You never know what you are capable of until you try.  Well, this is what this step is all about.  Life can be filled with a bunch of “what ifs” or “I did,” the choice is yours.  Take a jab at these steps and let me know if they helped  with any self-doubt you’ve been dealing with lately.  How do you overcome your self-doubt? Comment below and share your amazing story.

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6 Amazing Tips To Get The Most Out Of Journaling

Well hello there! It’s me, positive affirmations believer, overcoming achiever, Amazing Alex! When I say achiever, just know that part is continuously a goal that I strive to obtain but what does it truly mean to achieve?  Is it a feeling or an action? Perhaps it’s an experience? In my opinion its all three.  Something amazing happens when you accomplish something that you always wanted to achieve; it refers to attaining a desire aimed to help you become successful.  The feelings that occur after you achieved your desired goal is completely determined by you.  The feelings I felt when I decided to journal all seem to bring me comfort, understanding, and closure.  Yet, I  felt this feeling of accomplishment because I’ve personally experienced the benefits of journaling.

Over the past few weeks of journaling, I have  felt feelings of happiness, frustration, admiration, determination, and most importantly, I’ve felt a new awareness about myself.  Imagine for a second, writing about your fears, your strength, and your goals.  How amazing is that?!  You  can literally have a conversation with yourself by journaling; give yourself a pep talk or help yourself process a situation.  There are several benefits of journaling:

  • Enhance sense of well-being
  • Boost your mood
  • Reduce stress
  • Help process difficult events
  • Help shift a negative mindset
  • Decrease symptoms of depression

There are 6 amazing  tips that I would like to share with you to help you get the most out of journaling:

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  1. Find a private place in your house that is free of distractions. Set a timer for how long you would like to write, whether its five minutes or fifteen minutes, the amount of time is up to you.
  2. Make journaling apart of your schedule. There are twenty-four hours in a day and seven days a week.  Strive to write at least four times a week or at least once a day.
  3. A lot can happen once your pen hits the paper, or your fingertips began to make a steady beat as you type. Whichever way you decide to journal is up to you.  All I ask, is after you journal, give yourself time to reflect what you have written.
  4. What in the heck should I write about? Try journaling exactly what you are feeling in the moment. If you are still having a hard time deciding what to journal, well, think about what’s going on in your life, goals, or thoughts. Give yourself time to reflect on what you would like to journal about.  If your mind starts to wonder while you are journaling, pause.  Make sure you pause, reread what you’ve written down and re-focus before you start to write again.
  5. Write in anyway that feels best to you. You have the power to structure your writing the way you want it to be.
  6. Privacy! Privacy! Privacy! Your journal is for your eyes only. Not your family or friends, just you.


Have you ever journaled before, and if so, what was your experience like?



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Positive Affirmations


Well, hello there, it is me, positivity word slanging, love sprinkling Amazing Alex!  Today is the day.  Perhaps you are wondering what I mean; today is the day we are ridding ourselves of our limitations and barriers.  Close your eyes and take a deep breath in … You already have the tools within you.  With a little guidance, we can use these tools to help you come closer to becoming and/or feeling amazing.  There are two words I want you to think about, positive affirmations.  These are positive statements that can assist you to combat and over come self-sabotaging negative thoughts.

I am enough…say it out loud, but when you say it, I want you to believe it.  To believe is to acknowledge that something is true or that it exists. To me, belief is a feeling of contentment, satisfaction, happiness and a hopeful feeling when you think ahead to the future.  What did you feel when you said those words out loud?  Did you feel a joyful feeling in your heart when you said that I am enough?  Through consistency, commitment, and consciousness, we can work on retraining our thinking, and speaking into positive patterns to help change our lives.  Today is the day to open that door.  Its another opportunity to begin this change.    Think about your self-talk, is your internal dialogue serving you in a positive way?    Whether you know it or not, you are using affirmations in every moment.  With your thoughts, words, and behavior, you are creating your own life experiences.

I know what you are thinking, affirmations almost sound unrealistic or some form of “wishful thinking.”  Think of it this way, exercise is a way to improve our physical health.  Think of affirmations as exercises for our mind.  By making positive repetitive affirmations we can begin to think and act differently.

There is evidence that if you spend a few minutes thinking about positive affirmations of yourself, you can decrease your stress, increase your confidence and calm your nerves.  Isn’t that amazing!  Other studies have shown that it helps people with low self-esteem and depression. Researchers suggest that when a person has a stronger sense of self-worth, it can improve that person’s overall well-being.

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How do you use Positive Affirmations?

There are many ways you can use affirmations, for example, you can use affirmation to:

  • Boost your self-esteem
  • Finish goals you’ve started working on
  • Boost your confidence
  • Control negative feelings such as impatience, frustration, and anger.
  • Overcome a bad habit
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How do you Write an Affirmation Statement? 

What areas of your life would you like to change?  Think of a specific area in your life, whether it is a behavior or belief that you have difficulty with.  Focus on the things that matter to you most and write down the areas you would like to work on.


Is your affirmation achievable and credible? Have you ever heard of SMART goals?  SMART goals stand for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-based.  I mention this because these types of goals are clear, specific, realistic and should be important to you.  This is how your affirmations should be.  I repeat, keep it realistic!  Affirmations are not magic spells.  You must believe in them and that feeling of belief is an internal source within you.


What about the negative self-talk? Turn negatives into positives.  I want you to try this, write down those negative thoughts or beliefs that keep bothering you on a piece of paper.  Once you’ve listed them all, throw it away!  Throw those negative thoughts written down in the trash because that is where they belong.  Start a new list of affirmations that are opposite of the negative list.


How should I write my affirmations?  We do not want to write our affirmations in the past tense.  Speak and/or write your affirmations as if it is already happening.  This will feed your internal source of belief and add truth to the statement for the now.


Why should I say my affirmation statements out loud?  Say it loud! Say it loud!  It can help carry those affirmations with emotional weight.  Make the phrase meaningful to you and find time throughout the day to say it to yourself.

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What are Some Examples of Affirmations? 

Affirmations should be personal to you, specific and achievable.  Here are some amazing examples listed below:

  • I can do this!
  • I am successful!
  • I am generous!
  • I am amazing!


Amazing Key Points

  • Affirmations are positive statements
  • Affirmations can help you combat self-sabotaging negative thoughts
  • Make your affirmations realistic and achievable
  • Write your affirmations down
  • Say your affirmations out loud


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Do you have any positive affirmations that you would like to share? Please comment and share below.


Being In Total Control of Herself



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Well hello there! It’s the coffee drinking, road rage having, mindfulness exploring Amazing Alex.  This post has been sitting heavy on my chest and it involves the word BITCH…. have I caught your attention? All caps may be used to emphasize, scream, or represent an acronym of a word. For this post it is an acronym: Being In Total Control of Herself.  I first heard this acronym watching Iyanla Fix My Life.   She used it to help the woman find her voice so that she may speak her truth.  Iyanla defines this word as a defense against others to back them up and let people know that they have crossed your boundary and violated you.     Protect your boundaries!  If you do not protect your boundaries it will disrupt your commitment, consistency, and consciousness.



Well hey there! Its me!  The 7:00pm coffee drinking, Game of Thrones loving, positivity vibe throwing Amazing Alex.  I want to follow up with you about my previous blog.  You know the one titled New Year new me!  Its a summarization of the important three C’s: consistency, commitment and consciousness.   How do you get past planning the three C’s and taking action towards them?   Well you evolve.  Evolving reminds me of a butterfly.  When I was in the second grade, my entire class got a chance to take care of butterflies and watch them evolve.

My butterfly name was Sparkle………yes Sparkle, in my mind she was a girl.  When my teacher handed me my jar, I only saw an egg on a leaf; I still remember the confused look on my face.  When my teacher told me that she was giving us butterflies, at the time, I didn’t know we were going to start at the very beginning.  Every day I would race to my classroom to see if Sparkle was flying around in the jar, and everyday I was disappointed when I saw that she was still an egg.  A few weeks later, Sparkle was a caterpillar.

I was growing impatient, I wanted Sparkle to have her wings already but all she did was crawl around in the jar, eat all the leaves, and shed her skin.  I’m not going to pretend like my teacher didn’t tell me how the evolution of a butterfly worked, she did, and I also read about it in our science book.  For me, I just wanted to see instant results, a butterfly.  Well, Sparkle stayed in her cocoon for another two weeks before she decided to be a butterfly.

My teacher told us once they became butterflies that we had to set them free.  The sun was bright, and we were the only class outside to release our butterflies.  I opened my jar, but Sparkle didn’t fly off right away.  She landed on my hand and opened her wings than flew away.



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Evolution is mysterious; Sparkle evolved from a caterpillar to a butterfly because that is what they do genetically.  People can evolve as well, through patience, consistency, commitment and the consciousness to want to change.  Thoughts are merely goals that turn into action through our behavior.  If you want to evolve just do it.  When you are ready and willing to strive to be better you will do better getting you closer to your most amazing self.





Let me guess, New Year new me huh.  It’s that time of year when most people open to the world about their goals for the New Year.  Venting as they type up their post, write in their journal, fill up their agenda or make a vision board for what they would like to happen throughout the New Year.

I don’t know about you but 2018 reminds me of the backdrop that wasn’t a good idea to have in your picture.  It reminds me of living in New York standing in the middle of the street trying to get a taxi, but the drivers continue to pass by.  Sorry for being dramatic, I have never lived in New York, but I feel like that has happened to someone before.  My point is, I survived 2018 but there are several and I mean several things that I have learned from 2018 that has given me an idea of how I want 2019 to go.

  • Consistency
  • Commitment
  • Consciousness

For 2019 I will be working on my three C’s.    Consistency, commitment, and consciousness.  The first two C’s intertwine, however, there is a hung difference between the them.  Let’s just say that consistency is the daily routine you create for yourself.  Will you wake up early everyday to have more time? Would you stay active for a certain amount of days throughout the week to lose that extra weight?  Will you start reading every day to broaden your horizon?  commitment is the length of time that you intend to stick to this routine you create for yourself.   The time frame of the commitment is up to you.  Is this a lifetime goal or a 6-month trial?

The   good thing is that you have the power to decide and the consciousness to understand what you do not have the power to control.  There may be a time when the situation is completely out of your control, however, the one thing you can control is your response to that situation.  It was so easy to type that previous sentence!  Sometimes it is hard to work on responding in a situation that is out of your control.  It is something that should be practiced consistently.    There is a rainbow of emotions that each of us experience, we all tend to express these emotions differently.  What goals will you be working on in 2019?